Emotional Journey Through Breast Reduction Surgery

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Please note, this article is simply about the emotional journey through the breast reduction surgery. If you would like to read about all the other parts of my experience, click here.

Full, ample breasts are often one of the most valued feminine traits. Women want them and men crave them. But what happens when you start feeling like your breasts negatively define your identity? This is exactly the position I found myself in recently. For as long as I can remember, my breast have been anything but an asset in my life. I didn’t just dislike the way clothes looked on me or the physical discomfort, but the negative attention they brought me weighed on me constantly. It took over a decade of wanting a breast reduction before I finally decided to take the leap. This is my emotional journey through the breast reduction process, and the thoughts I didn’t know I would have before I made my decision.

Emotional Journey through Breast Reduction Surgery

Making the decision to have surgery

In December of 2018, I finally pulled the trigger on getting a breast reduction. It felt like a relief when I finally booked my surgery and knew it was finally happening. There was a sense of excitement and a feeling of uncertainty, in a good way. The more I researched, the more I found women happy with their decision to have the surgery. This helped elate me even more. I was ready for this.

About one week before my surgery, I started packing my bag, as I was traveling over 3000 miles to get my surgery done. As I was packing, I was hit with wave of anxiety that resulted in an unexpected emotional journey through this breast reduction. I wasn’t ready for the overwhelming feeling of loss. Although I was aware of the attention my breasts drew, I never really thought about how my identity was wrapped up in my overly womanly figure, for better or worse.

The Negative Side of Large Breasts

As far back as I can remember, my breasts have drawn older male attention. When I was 12, I remember helping my grandma at her cafe, and an older gentleman said, “They sure didn’t make girls like you when I was 12.” This wasn’t just a one off comment, they came often. Comments like those left me feeling dirty, almost like I had done something wrong. It made me ashamed of the breasts I had.

Those unwanted comments and attention followed me through my adulthood. Men, even friends, made unwelcome comments. It left me feeling uncomfortable and all I could do was laugh because I didn’t know what else to do. I have also been accused of purposefully seeking that sort of attention, when I have simply tried to wear clothing smaller breasted women wear. I have been told I should know better than to dress that way. Although I am aware that I cannot help the way others see me, it still affected me emotionally.

Breast Reduction Before and After

The Emotional Journey for Sexual Abuse and Sexual Assault Victims

This alone has been a downer on my mental state, but even more so being the victim of both sexual abuse and sexual assault. I was not ready for the emotional journey the breast reduction would take me on, and ultimately end in a sort of healing from those events. Of course, I understand both the sexual abuse as a child and the sexual abuse as a young adult did not happen because of anything I purposely did. However, there is a huge amount of shame and self blame that come with both of these acts. Abusers have perfected the blame game and made the victims feel they are at fault for looking a certain way. This guilt and shame have been something I have carried for as long as I can remember. It has always crept somewhere deep in my memory files.

Where I am Emotionally Now

The thought of losing a portion of my breasts, to make me “normal” brought on such a rush of relief and sadness all at once. I had to find a new way to identify myself and my figure. Although I have not fully grasped the “new” me, I feel like I have lost such a figurative weight. Going through breast reduction surgery took some of that shame and guilt when part of me was physically removed. I have grieved the loss of the old me, and have had to come to terms with the negative experiences I have endured. I did not expect this part, but this emotional journey through my breast reduction has literally changed my life. Please note that I am not saying smaller breasted woman have not, or will not have negative experiences. This is just my personal identity journey and experiences.

This has been a heavy topic for such a short article. I just felt the need to share this part of the mental journey one goes through with plastic surgery. The process leaves you instantly changed, and we don’t often think about how our identity can change. I have zero regrets, but I was forced to deal with some things I did not even consider. No other literature I read spoke about this side effect. I am not sure if it wasn’t spoken of because it is taboo, or because it is unique to me.

Please know, after it has all been said and done, even with the emotional journey with the breast reduction, I feel physically and mentally lighter. It is worth every tear I have shed and every terrible memory brought back. It is just a matter of time for me to become comfortable in my new look.

Emotional Journey Through Breast Reduction

13 thoughts on “Emotional Journey Through Breast Reduction Surgery”

  1. Thank you for all of this. My surgery is scheduled for July 11. I am terrified but know that it is a must.

    1. I think you’ll be glad you did! If at any time you have questions, feel free to reach out. I’ll help any way I can. I also have an article about items needed after surgery that really helped me have a smoother recovery. If you need bryanncaldwell@gmail.com. Best wishes on your surgery!

      1. Thank you! I’m currently a 32 M… this will be a big transition. I will check out your article. Thank you!

      2. Thanks Bryann for all the breast reduction articles–very insightful! Only us well-endowed ladies can understand the pros and cons of this issue. Your other articles are fascinating as well–take care! Laura 🙂

        1. Thank you so much, Laura! I agree with you. You really have to go through the process to understand all the ins and outs. Best of luck on your next reduction surgery. I wish for you a speedy recovery!

          1. Thanks Bryann for the well wishes and yes I pray if and when I have my second surgery all will go well. I have my consult today and I hope he doesn’t reject my case because I had it done once before. They claim having it done a second time has it’s own set of issues.
            I hope your still satisfied with your results and living life more lighter and freer now!

    2. Hi Elena! You’ll be just fine–don’t worry! I had reduction done 25 years ago and I am going for a consult tomorrow to have it done again! Mine grew back–the bane of my existence! I have always hated my breasts and every negative thing that goes along with them! I am 56 years young and hoping my surgeon will agree to a massive reduction this time around. As a woman ages it becomes more an issue of health and comfort and the looks of the hooters become secondary–at least in my case. Each lady is different. But I can relate to the emotional part of it too. It will be nice once again not to be looked at as the young chick with the huge fun bags and now years later as the old bat with the droopy massive cow udders! I dream of the day once again I can shop like a normal woman and feel like a normal woman–not a freak with the gigantic tatas!
      You will be so pleased and relieved with your results Elena–don’t worry yourself and keep thinking of the new and freer you! No more lugging around these behemoth appendages anymore! Good luck and when you wake up after surgery you’ll be very pleasantly surprised! Blessings-Laura 🙂

  2. Thank you so much for this article. I have my surgery scheduled in December and I’m so ready for it. That said, I’ve been wondering how my identity and how I view myself will be impacted. It was comforting to know I’m not alone in this.

    1. Hi, Bonny! I am glad you found some comfort in this article. Isn’t crazy how we all feel alone in our battles? Just know you aren’t alone! Best of wishes on your upcoming surgery, and please let me know if you have any questions.

      Have a great weekend!


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